Attention-grabbing story in the Island

In the story when you come across the word FUNDI it stands for WITCH DOCTORS!

"Interacting with people is one way of getting to know their ways of life”!
In the process of interacting many times I hear the word fundi, fundi,! Then one day I was told for u to leave peaceful and have your issues run smoothly here you have to consult fundi. Mhh! I was curious to know more so I kept on listening and asking. Then I was told the most vital thing, if I've come with my Husband or fiancé/boyfriend I should go immediately to see the Fundi so as to tie him before I cry crocodile tears! I asked, why should I see fundi and tie him? .They told me seriously If i don't!, just in one week he will be taken away from me. I asked why and how? I was told its normal and it has become a culture for women to go to fundi for that purpose (tying men) since everyday women are searching for new one especially who seems to be in a good position financially. I thought they were kidding!!! I couldn't believe.

It was not until one Saturday when a woman of Mainland origin came to the house where I was staying with my friends crying, saying her husband has been missing since Friday and his mobile phone was off, not even his friends or relatives knew his whereabouts. It was so bad! She was real in bad shape! Can u imagine they married some couple of months ago? Gosh! I remembered the story about fundi, fundi, fundi.. The woman said people were advising her to consult fundi, telling her that she should learn how to live in the Island and keep in mind the saying which says" WHEN YOU GO TO ROME DO AS ROMANS DO" but she couldn't because she doesn't believe in those stuffs.

Sunday night the woman gave us very awful and heartbreaking news that her husband went to Shamba (this is the place where big tourist hotels and beaches are located, like 40km from town) to marry another woman!!!!! That Friday the guy had converted to Islamic and their marriage took place in the Mosque. (The man was strongly tied eeeh!)

I am still researching on this issue to know how marriage/courtships/ relationships survive for those who do not consult fundi. After my research I will get back to you.

African Women and the modernizing world.

In the process of modernization things have changed and there are ongoing changes. We are happy for the changes that yield good fruits. Leaving aside the way of dressing there are other things if they are not well thought-out will wipe out the identity and beauty of an African woman.

Now it is so depressing to see fellow African women changing their skin colour so that they may look like mzungu! You know, when God created people with variety of colours it was a brilliant idea. I think to God we are like flowers in a garden! We should really appreciate this. Just tell me, WHO WOULD WANT TO SEE ONLY ONE FLOWER COLOUR IN HIS/HER GARDEN? Can you imagine how would it look like? Or imagine your house surrounded by one type of flower!

There has been a fashion of changing skin colour using chemicals especially for young African women with the notion of looking for “beauty”. Sad enough those chemicals have proven several health side effects. Is beauty real a matter of light colour? or mzungu colour? I always ask myself this question and I come to a conclusion that everyone looks good/beautiful in his/her own natural colour.

Do you know that African women are very beautiful with the natural black/dark skin and big bodies? That’s what makes African women unique! Be proud of your colour! Be proud of yourselves!

If u do not value yourself who else will? I beseech fellow African women, to keep safe and save from harm your skin colour.